Seven rules of Life

1. Make peace with your past so it wont screw up the present.

2. What others think of you is none of your business.

3. Time heals almost everything, give it time.

4. Don't compare your life to others and don't judge them. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

5. Stop thinking too much, its alright not to know the answers. They will come to you when you least expect it.

6. No one is in charge of your happiness, except you.

7. Smile. You don't own all the problems in the world.

Facing Failure

1. Feeling your emotions

Notice each emotion as it comes to you. Take time to name the emotion, be it anger, sadness, fear, or shame.
• Overcoming failure is all about finding it in yourself to start again.
• First, you must overcome the sense of failure.
• The failure of a project, relationship, or other goal might initially overwhelm you, but if you acknowledge your disappointment and accept your mistakes you will be able to move on.

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• This will enable you to work through it without turning it on yourself or others.

2. Acceptance of Failure

• It will be harder to move forward if you blame yourself or others, or pretend that what happened didn't matter or didn't really happen.
• Write down or reflect on everything that happened, what lead to it and what the consequences were. State only the facts, without blame, judgment, or justification.
• If writing is not a helpful form of expression for you, find someone you can talk to. A trusted friend or family member, or a counselor, can help you move past.

3. Be Positive

• Positive reframing is all about discovering the positives in any situation, even failure.
• Look at the situation in which you feel you failed, and contemplate different ways of describing it.
• "Failure" is a subjective term. Instead of saying "I failed at finding work," say "I haven't found work yet" or "I've been looking for work longer than I had hoped." Don't attempt to whitewash your mistakes, but state them without judgment, and look for the best.
• Try using humor to encourage yourself when you are down.
• Humor is a key component of resilience: laughing kindly at yourself will help carry you through your greatest trials.

4. Diffusing Negative Thoughts

• If you keep thinking of yourself as a failure, write something like, "I am a capable person" on a sticky note and put it on your mirror. Say it aloud to yourself and you can begin to change your negative thinking.
• Avoid negative thoughts like " I am failure", This is terrible.. etc.

5. Avoid Replaying of Failure in your Mind

• Use mindful meditation to bring you back to the present.
• Mindful meditation helps you stop worrying about what happened in the past and focus on the here and now, and you can start asking yourself: what can I do differently today?

6. Bounce Back

• What happened to throw your goal off track? Could it have been prevented?
• Think about possible solutions you could have put into action, and what their consequences would have been. Were your initial expectations unrealistic?
• Try discussing your expectations with loved ones and teammates to measure their realism.

7. Set Realistic goal and Change the approach

• Brainstorm ideas and select the one that seems sturdiest. 
• Ask yourself if you have the resources to put your new plan into place.
• What new problems are likely to come up? How will you solve them? What needs to be in place before you begin.
• Avoid repeating the same mistakes.
• Your new approach should not include any of the strategies that may have caused your last approach to fail.

8. Try Again

• With your new goal set, and your new plan solidified, set out to achieve your goal.
• Take the time to reflect on your progress as your steps take effect.

Managing Emotions

Emotion is any agitation or disturbance of mind, feeling, passion, any vehement or excited mental state. There are hundreds of emotions with their blends and variation.

Distortions within

• Fear: anxiety, concern, edginess, terror.
• Anger: fury, outrage, animosity, irritability.
• Sadness: sorrow, grief, gloom, loneliness, dejection.
• Enjoyment: Happiness, relief, thrill, rapture, satisfaction.
• Love: acceptance, trust, kindness, devotion.
• Surprise: shock, amazement, wonder.

Managing Emotions:

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• Prayer helps unburden many emotional imbalances.
• Cultivate the taste of watching nature.
• Listen to good music.
• Develop positive emotions like love, respect, kindness.
• Avoid negative emotions like anger, jealousy, guilt, fear, worry, ego, inferiority, greed etc.
• Avoid Criticizing, Complaining, Comparing, Competing in unhealthy way.
• Change yourself- Change can begin only from you and only from within.
• Never Quit.
• Stop blaming- instead of blaming darkness every where, light a candle if you can. Stop blaming; instead take action.