Facing Failure

1. Feeling your emotions

Notice each emotion as it comes to you. Take time to name the emotion, be it anger, sadness, fear, or shame.
• Overcoming failure is all about finding it in yourself to start again.
• First, you must overcome the sense of failure.
• The failure of a project, relationship, or other goal might initially overwhelm you, but if you acknowledge your disappointment and accept your mistakes you will be able to move on.

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• This will enable you to work through it without turning it on yourself or others.

2. Acceptance of Failure

• It will be harder to move forward if you blame yourself or others, or pretend that what happened didn't matter or didn't really happen.
• Write down or reflect on everything that happened, what lead to it and what the consequences were. State only the facts, without blame, judgment, or justification.
• If writing is not a helpful form of expression for you, find someone you can talk to. A trusted friend or family member, or a counselor, can help you move past.

3. Be Positive

• Positive reframing is all about discovering the positives in any situation, even failure.
• Look at the situation in which you feel you failed, and contemplate different ways of describing it.
• "Failure" is a subjective term. Instead of saying "I failed at finding work," say "I haven't found work yet" or "I've been looking for work longer than I had hoped." Don't attempt to whitewash your mistakes, but state them without judgment, and look for the best.
• Try using humor to encourage yourself when you are down.
• Humor is a key component of resilience: laughing kindly at yourself will help carry you through your greatest trials.

4. Diffusing Negative Thoughts

• If you keep thinking of yourself as a failure, write something like, "I am a capable person" on a sticky note and put it on your mirror. Say it aloud to yourself and you can begin to change your negative thinking.
• Avoid negative thoughts like " I am failure", This is terrible.. etc.

5. Avoid Replaying of Failure in your Mind

• Use mindful meditation to bring you back to the present.
• Mindful meditation helps you stop worrying about what happened in the past and focus on the here and now, and you can start asking yourself: what can I do differently today?

6. Bounce Back

• What happened to throw your goal off track? Could it have been prevented?
• Think about possible solutions you could have put into action, and what their consequences would have been. Were your initial expectations unrealistic?
• Try discussing your expectations with loved ones and teammates to measure their realism.

7. Set Realistic goal and Change the approach

• Brainstorm ideas and select the one that seems sturdiest. 
• Ask yourself if you have the resources to put your new plan into place.
• What new problems are likely to come up? How will you solve them? What needs to be in place before you begin.
• Avoid repeating the same mistakes.
• Your new approach should not include any of the strategies that may have caused your last approach to fail.

8. Try Again

• With your new goal set, and your new plan solidified, set out to achieve your goal.
• Take the time to reflect on your progress as your steps take effect.